Sep 5, 2025
1. Honesty. Communication. Budgeting.
We need you to have open, honest communication with us. And once you hire us, we need you to keep doing that. Put your trust in our expertise and work with us as a team. We’re helping you plan and execute an intimate, once in a lifetime event. We want to bring your vision to life as best we can! You have to be able to communicate if we’re way off base because we only get one go at this.
We also want you to be honest with us about your budget from the start. This isn’t to trick you into spending more money or upsell you something. Being honest about your budget with your wedding vendors lets you start to match your vision with your budget in a practical way and set realistic expectations for yourselves and your wedding day.
2. Ghosting People is Rude.
I’m just going to come right on out and say it, ghosting someone is rude and a waste of everybody’s time.
I promise – you will NOT hurt your wedding vendors feelings. Will we be disappointed? Maybe for a hot second but trust me when I say this: we would all rather a minute of disappointment over the many minutes we will spend trying to follow up with you, obsessing over whether our emails are going to your spam folder, sending another “checking in” email and just generally spiraling out.
A simple, “We decided to go in another direction. Thanks!” is all it takes. You’re getting married. You can do hard things!
3. We’re also interviewing you
Here’s the truth: we love what we do and wedding days are long. We’re on our feet for 8, 10, sometimes 12+ hours, often missing our own families and weekends – we want to spend that time with people who we vibe with. The vibes matter! Just like you’re looking for a wedding photographer, planner, or DJ who makes you feel comfortable and heard, we’re looking for clients who trust us, respect our craft and who we feel connected to and aligned with.
We’re a team. When you’re relaxed + ready to enjoy yourselves, we’re free to do our best work. But if the energy is combative or tense, it doesn’t just affect the photos – it makes the whole day harder for everyone. So yes, we’re “interviewing” you too because the right match means we get to show up and create an unforgettable, stress free, fun wedding day.
4. We think you’ll probably regret not hiring a wedding planner or day of coordinator.
Listen, my mom is an AMAZING planner. The woman can throw a beautiful, thoughtful, creative, detail-filled event like it’s her full time job but you know what she can’t do? Throw a beautiful, thoughtful, creative, detail-filled event as the MOB and be present for all of it.
A professional planner is 1,000,000% worth their cost. Many professional wedding planners offer a range of packages so don’t be weird about asking them for a custom quote.
On the high end, a wedding planner will take care of literally everything. On the more affordable end they’ll offer day of wedding coordination services so that your most important people can be present for YOU.
Who will light all the candles? Set the tables? Install your decor? Make sure your fiances frat bro cousins don’t convince the bar to open early?
A professional wedding planner or day of wedding coordinator will take care of the one million little things that have to happen for you to have that epic party you planned. They’ll answer all the questions that get asked by everyone who has anything to do with your wedding. They’ll keep things running on time. They’ll run interference on your weird Aunt. They will anticipate what will go wrong and fix it before it’s even goes wrong. They are the wedding wizards. Pay for the wizard! (My friend Teresa at A Seamless Day Event Management is one of those wizards)
“But my venue includes a coordinator!”
I’ve seen a lot of couples get confused by this one. I don’t think it’s the venues fault – you don’t know what to ask when you don’t know what you don’t know…ya know?!) A venue coordinator is not the same thing as wedding planner/coordinator. At most, a venue coordinator is running the bar, accepting your rentals and helping with set up or room flips. At the other end of the spectrum? They’re turning on lights and unlocking the door for you. Don’t expect your venue coordinator to handle all of the day of setups, deliveries, styling, questions, mini-emergencies etc. If your venue includes any kind of planner in their rentals, make sure to ask for a detailed breakdown of what that person is there to do.
5. It’s your wedding – you can do whatever you want
*Imagine the T.I. song “You can have whateva you like” is playing in the background while you read this next part
Okay yes, there are some limitations (see above re: budget) but I won’t stop shouting it from the rooftops…YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT ON YOUR WEDDING DAY! Want to surprise your friends + family by throwing your wedding when they least expect it? Sounds fun. Dreaming of having giant turkey legs for dinner a la the ren fest? Sign me up. Thinking of including a joint rolling station late night when your midnight pizza delivery rolls up? I’ve got a girl for that.
(My lawyer says that I should state that one should only utilize cannabis products where it is safe, legal and approved to do so. You should be of legal age and should only purchase your products from a legal, appropriately licensed source. You should probably also take an uber home. Make good choices and don’t break the law or your venue rules. I added that last part.
It’s your day. If something doesn’t speak to the two of you, doesn’t serve you or is just something you’ve always thought was cringey – don’t do it. Who cares what anyone else thinks? You get one shot at your wedding day, why not spend it how you want?
