Why You Totally Should Exchange Private Vows Before your Wedding Ceremony
Why You Totally Should Exchange Private Vows Before your Wedding Ceremony
Okay, hear me out: what if you and your boo had a little secret moment before the ceremony, just the two of you (and maybe your photographer sneakily hiding in a bush)? Enter: private vows. They’re sweet. They’re sacred. They might make you cry ugly-lovely tears before your guests even arrive. And honestly? That’s kind of the magic of them.
If you’re on the fence about doing private vows, let me gently and enthusiastically push you off said fence—with love. 💖
Here are three reasons why couples are loving this sweet little pre-ceremony tradition:
💌 1. It’s Super Romantic + Intimate
Imagine this: just you two, in a quiet pocket of your day, whispering the promises you maybe don’t want to say in front of your Aunt Linda and your college roommate. You can be as mushy, sappy, weird, poetic, or profanity-laced as your heart desires. No filter. No stage fright. Just two humans, madly in love, being so incredibly real with each other.
It’s honestly the kind of moment you’ll carry with you forever.
🧘 2. You’ll Feel Way More Chill
Weddings are exciting! And loud! And full of logistics! Private vows can be like a pressure valve—releasing a bunch of the pre-ceremony jitters. After you’ve seen your person and spilled your heart a little, walking down that aisle will feel less like a high-stakes performance and more like the celebration it’s meant to be.
(Bonus: you get your own rom-com moment before the crowd arrives.)
😂 3. You Get to Say the Real Stuff
Let’s be honest: not all vows are meant for public ears. Maybe there’s an inside joke or a slightly embarrassing first-date story you want to include. Or maybe you just want to say, “You’re my lobster” without everyone giggling.
Private vows let you get personal and raw without wondering if your flower girl is picking her nose while you’re talking about your soul connection. ✨
SO…if you’re dreaming of a wedding day that’s more you, filled with pockets of meaning and connection (and a few happy tears), private vows might just be your new favorite tradition.
And hey, if you want to follow them up with a first dance to “Hot to Go” in the forest wearing no shoes… you have my full support. 💃🌲
📸 Pro Tip:
Have your photographer (hi, it’s me! 👋) nearby to capture the magic from a distance—those soft, emotional, candid moments? GOLD.
